We dream of getting married long before we actually do, often playing "wedding day" as children. And now your dream is coming true. You and your intended are planning your Tulsa wedding. And that is a very important point to remember-- this wedding belongs to the two of you. And Tulsa offers many unique opportunities to tailor your wedding to your personal style.

Your wedding day, the ceremony and reception, does not necessarily need to follow cliché traditions; your wedding can be very personal. The two of you choose the date, the place, the guest list, the invitations -- the list of choices you make go on and on. And each choice can be a reflection of the blending of the wonderful personalities of each of you. You may choose a detail, such as a type of flower, because it is a reflection of the personality of the one with whom you fell in love. You may choose a theme, such as "Western," "Renaissance," or "Stars." The more closely the wedding represents your personal tastes, the more closely it resembles the dreams you share, then the more unique your wedding will be. Memorable and unique.

One way of planning your Tulsa dream wedding is to prioritize what is important to each of you. When the feelings of others are important, creative ways are made to accommodate them. The Bride has dreamed of a small intimate gathering, the Groom a big blow out party – small, big or a compromise – a decision will need to be made. A March wedding may give way to an October date when the weather in Tulsa is more accommodating to the dream of an outdoor ceremony. And when can be determined by where (is the ceremony and reception location available that date?) and where can be determined by how many (does the location accommodate 120 or just 100?)…. So prioritize what is important to the two of you.

How do you create and prioritize a list that accurately reflects the dreams of both of you, and is still realistic? What needs to be on the list; what needs to be considered?

There are several sticky areas that sometimes control whether certain things are on the list: money, parents, schedules, to name three.

The fact of life is that to make a dream come true it will take some money. Fortunately, a Wedding in Tulsa can be beautiful and unique for any amount of money. So, what is the budget? And who is paying for it? And if the parents are paying for it, how much control is theirs? When you as a couple start listing the elements you want in your wedding, finances will temper some of the elements. But, as you make your list, remember that there are many creative ways to make a dream come true.

As you make your list, parents are considered. The honoring of parents is an Oklahoma tradition. So, when you present your dream list, let your parents know that you appreciate their love and support (no pun intended) and honor them. Also, talk about your dream and remind them that the wedding is the start of your new life together, that the two of you want a ceremony and reception that represents your personal tastes.

And when do you want to get married, and what is in the way of that date? Is the place you want to be married available then? Can your out of town guests come at that time?

The above sticky areas, money, parents and schedules are foundational elements to be considered as you create and prioritize your list.